The Compassionate Friends of the Wiregrass
Frequently Asked Questions
A: No one can say with
certainty when is the right time to come to a meeting.
Sometimes family members come shortly after the child has died while other times
they wait longer. Some people who attend shortly after the child’s death may decide
not to come back until they’re more ready. This is a personal decision.
Q: Do I need a reservation before coming to a meeting?
A: No reservations are needed. Just come whenever you feel up to it.
Q: If I go to a meeting, will I have to talk?
A: No one is required to
talk at any meeting. We understand how difficult it can be
when our grief is so fresh. We do ask that you listen, however.
Q: Is there a charge to attend?
A: There is never a charge
to attend a TCF meeting. Our chapters rely on voluntary donations from members,
friends and the community at large.
Q: My child was a adult and didn't live at home. Can I still
go to a meeting?
A: Chapter meetings are open
to all families who have experienced the death of a
child, at any age, from any cause. Regardless of the age, we in TCF believe our
children will always be thought of as just that……..our children.
Q: My spouse says want come with me. Can I come alone?
A: Yes. We all grieve differently
and your spouse or significant other may not be
ready to take part just yet … or ever.
Q: Can I bring a friend?
A: Yes. You can bring a
friend or other family members, but we ask that they as
well as all members, respect each other’s privacy. It is important for us to be able
to share freely within our group and be sure confidences will be respected
Q: Do men attend meetings?
A: Yes. Many chapters are
divided almost evenly between men and woman while
others are not. Men grieve, too and are welcome to attend meeting for support.
Q: What happens at a meeting?
A: Some meetings are simply
introducing ourselves and sharing our thoughts and feelings. At other times, chapters
have short programs. The programs may include
a brief guest speaker, viewing a video tape, or listing to an audio tape. Chapters
usually have special months when the hold a balloon launch or have a memorial
Q: My child died from ________. Will I still be welcome?
A: Yes. All families who have experienced the death of a child at any age, from any cause, are welcome.
Q: I have babysitting problems. Would it be all right to bring my five-year-old
to me to the meeting?
A: While we understand the difficulties of finding child care, we must ask that any children attending with you be old enough to understand the meeting discussions
and not be upset by them. Some chapters have sibling groups for children twelve
or older; check with your local chapter.
Q: Religion doesn't matter to me anymore. Can people at a meeting accept
A: After the death of a child, many priorities and values change. All who come
to the meeting are welcome, regardless of their religious beliefs.
Q: How long do people come to the meetings?
A: People attend meetings until no longer feel the need. Some attend just a few meetings while others come for years. Some are so thankful for the helpful support they’ve received that they stat to help in chapter leadership so they can be there
for the next people who walk through the doors seeking help.